{"id":240,"date":"2018-08-29T17:08:56","date_gmt":"2018-08-29T21:08:56","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/trestlewoodcounseling.com\/?p=240"},"modified":"2018-08-29T17:09:54","modified_gmt":"2018-08-29T21:09:54","slug":"the-importance-of-resilience","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/trestlewoodcounseling.com\/index.php\/2018\/08\/29\/the-importance-of-resilience\/","title":{"rendered":"The Importance of Resilience"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>It\u2019s that time of year again.\u00a0 Penciled are sharpened, backpacks are clean and empty, and you are about to send your child or children off to school for either the first or umpteenth time.\u00a0 Every year around this time, I talk with my clients, their parents, and even my own children about the things they want to be intentional about for the upcoming school year.\u00a0 Take a moment and reflect \u2013 What goals do you as a child, adolescent or parent want to accomplish this year&#8211; Increased organization, better grades or maybe just a peaceful school year?\u00a0\u00a0 While all of these aspects of school and life are quite important, they require an awful lot of hard work and at times can be difficult and stressful to manage in our day to day.\u00a0\u00a0 In this day and age, our children and adolescent face several stressors: grades, friends, parents, bullying, over scheduling, social media, school shootings, 24 hour news cycle etc.\u00a0 So how do we foster resilience or the ability to bounce back and recover from adversity in life in our children and adolescents?<\/p>\n<p>Dr. Kenneth Ginsburg with Martha Jablow in their book <u>Building Resilience in Children and Teens<\/u> identify resilience as \u201cgiving kids roots and wings\u201d in their book subtitle.\u00a0 \u00a0At the core of this philosophy is the idea that the important adults, whether as a parent, aunt, grandparent, mentor, teacher or coach, affect a child\u2019s resilience.\u00a0 As parents, caregivers and loving adults we offer unconditional love and create security, we set and encourage our children to meet our expectations for better or worse, and we model behaviors on how to meet these expectations and manage the challenges along the way because according to Ginsberg and Jablow, (2011)\u201cchildren watch what we do much more than they listen to what we say\u201d (p.22).<\/p>\n<p>Ginsberg and Jablow (2011) identify seven crucial C\u2019s as the \u201cingredients of resilience\u201d<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Competence \u2013 the ability or manage situations effectively through the development of skills making healthy choices through actual life experience.<\/li>\n<li>Confidence- the solid belief in one\u2019s own abilities and is rooted in confidence<\/li>\n<li>Connection- close ties with family, friends, school, and community that create a sense of security and produce strong values.<\/li>\n<li>Character- fundamental sense of right and wrong that allows children to make wise choices, build self-worth, contribute to the world and become stable adults.<\/li>\n<li>Contribution- the belief that the world is a better place because my child is in it and that each and every one of them has something to offer the world on a regular basis.<\/li>\n<li>Coping- the ability to manage stress and overcome obstacles in life in a positive, healthy way.<\/li>\n<li>Control- helping children to identify that they have the ability to impact their lives through their decisions and actions and there are some extenuating circumstances in his or her life that are out of his or her control (divorce, loss etc.). (Ginsberg &amp; Jablow, 2011, p.24-30).<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>So Perhaps this year as you and your child head back to school for the 2018-2019 you can review the crucial C\u2019s and identify intentional ways to build on each of these tenets of resilience.<\/p>\n<p><span class=\"embed-youtube\" style=\"text-align:center; display: block;\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" class=\"youtube-player\" width=\"525\" height=\"296\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/iMWqI6F_CyA?version=3&#038;rel=1&#038;showsearch=0&#038;showinfo=1&#038;iv_load_policy=1&#038;fs=1&#038;hl=en-US&#038;autohide=2&#038;wmode=transparent\" allowfullscreen=\"true\" style=\"border:0;\" sandbox=\"allow-scripts allow-same-origin allow-popups allow-presentation allow-popups-to-escape-sandbox\"><\/iframe><\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Ginsberg, K.R. &amp; Jablow, M.M. 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